It may seem like your child is just acting out to get attention, but most of the time, tantrums are the result of very big feelings that kids experience without the ability to regulate them.

*Originally published as a guest post on Hinsdale Area Moms Instagram page.



Ask yourself, “Is my child hungry?”

Does my child need something physically or emotionally? Try to find out what will fill that need.


Ask yourself, “Is my child angry?”

What is causing my child to feel this way? Encourage your child to express their feelings.


Ask yourself, “Is my child lonely?”

Is my child having difficulty connecting with others? Talk about it and ask questions.


Ask yourself, “Is my child tired?”

Does my child need a nap or some quiet time? If your child doesn’t want to sleep try lying down with them.

Remember to HALT and check that basic needs are met as the first response to fixing unwanted behaviors such as tantrums and meltdowns.

Susan Stutzman

Susan Stutzman

Owner | Child Therapist | LCPC, RPT

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